An important part of Pride is embracing thepeople that make up our society. Doing so, requires that we make efforts to learn and understand the things that make us, us.
For Pride, we interviewed Ezkay U Puchol, a transman who shared with us what being trans means to him, his take on gender and what it means, and the importance of understanding the difference between sex and gender, as well his personal experiences as a trans man.
SVAKOM: To start with something easy in theory, for you what is it like to be a man or a woman?
Ezkay: It is quite a complex issue, given that it depends on the person in front of you, but I think the difference is often in the education received, most cis men are not taught to cook or clean, but a woman by the fact of being one has to know how to do it and if you don't do it, some don't consider you a woman. I think it is quite difficult to answer this question.
SVAKOM: You define yourself as a “trans” person. Can you explain to us what you mean by this term?
Ezkay: Well, I think that finally I am what I have always felt inside, which is that I lived for 22 years in a body that did not represent me, thanks to hormonal and psychological therapy I have been able to accept myself.
SVAKOM: What is transsexuality?
Ezkay: If you mean the steps to be taken, that is another question. If you mean the process is quite complex, starting with the fact that you go through several psychological and psychiatric evaluations that many professionals are not prepared to carry out, endless waiting lists for mastectomy (removal of the breasts) or for hysterectomy (removal of the ovaries) in case you don't want to be a surrogate father, which is a desire that I don't know about, so I can't tell you anything.
When it comes to changing your ID, it's godless, for everything they ask you for the paper from the civil registry, even if you already have the ID issued by the police (and you have to take care of changing each one of the documents you have with your deadname (previous name) in each and every one of the existing organisms (hacienda, census, education)
SVAKOM: Is it difficult to separate sexual orientation from gender?
Ezkay: Gender identity is not the same as sexual orientation. These are terms which society tends to confuse.
Identity refers to what a person considers himself or herself to be. While orientation refers to the ability of an individual to feel emotional, affective, and sexual attraction to another person.
SVAKOM: How was your childhood?
Ezkay: I was too ignorant to understand that something was wrong. I knew something was wrong, but I ignored it.
SVAKOM: How was adolescence?
Ezkay: I started to have doubts, but I didn't get the help I needed until the early days, which was when I started treatment
SVAKOM: Have you ever felt rejected?
Ezkay: From my paternal family side, I did, since they are from right-wing mind. And also, by certain public entities such as the registration department in the City Council of Vigo, Spain.
SVAKOM: Why do you think trans people should be given more visibility?
Ezkay: For people to get rid of that image of suburbs with drugged or prostituted trans people, I see it as complicated given that the TERF collective gains more and more ground.
Prejudices are overcome by giving visibility. Because I believe that if diversity gains ground, those prejudices installed by ignorance will dissipate.
SVAKOM: Is there anything else you want to say?
SVAKOM: Let the misnamed RadFem study a bit more before opening their mouths.
My grandfather always said: "The problem with closed minds is that their mouths are wide open"
All the best
Ezkay U. Puchol
An important part of being an ally is being educated – but we cannot expect trans* people to always be the ones to educate us. Below you can find some links containing information on what being trans* means.