Complete Beginner Guide to Using Strap-ons

Posted by SVAKOM 10/03/2011 0 Comment(s) Testimonials,

A strap-on is made of a dildo combined with a harness. While there are various strap-on designs, the traditional design entails the dildo having a flared base threading through the O-ring aperture in the harness. 

The dildo is able to stay in place against your pelvis sustainably, thanks to the O-ring fitting appropriately with the dildo's flared base. It is important to emphasize, however, that all strap-ons don't require harnesses.

Just anyone can use strap-ons – regardless of whether they have a penis or not. Strap-ons essentially mimic the penis but can be used for a wide range of applications. This cuts across using a strap-on to penetrate your partner (male or female), using it for exciting role-plays and oral sex, vaginal sex, or typical masturbation. Strap-ons are also used for tackling erectile challenges. 

  Types of strap-ons

Majorly, there are two types of strap-ons prevalently used today. These are strap-ons that work with harnesses and the strap-ons that don't need harnesses. Of course, each of these strap-ons has its respective advantages and challenges. How about we explore them?


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Let us start with the harnessed strap-ons

Harnessed strap-ons – as we know it – comes with a dildo and the harness. With the increasing adoption of harnessed dildos, we have seen a variety in the harness design. The most prevalent harness design is the Jock harness. This harness is furnished with three straps on each leg.

It gives you an excellent grip and enhanced maneuverability. We have noticed many people going with the Jock harness due to it being more customizable and also giving the wearer more stimulation.

There is also the G-string harness. This is furnished with two straps with one loop going around the waist and the other between the legs. Thicker straps means more control, giving the wearer improved hold.  

The jock harness is preferred over this G-string harness basically because of the exposure the former gives to the person who wear it (which the G-string lacks). Nonetheless, the G-string harness is yet a favorite of many due to the anal and genital stimulation it provides the wearer with down the middle as he/she moves during the exercise.

Lastly, we will explore the lingerie harness. The design of this harness mirrors that of your regular underwear. They tend to look more boxers, although there are more femininely adapted designs of the lingerie harness. 

It is ridiculously easy to wear them hence the recent wave in their adoption. However, compared to the more traditional jock and G-string harnesses, the lingerie harness doesn't give as much support to the wearer. Also, you may struggle with the lingerie harness if your sex toy is heavier. 

   Moving on to the strap-ons with no straps

Of late, strap-ons without straps have been. Most users prefer a strapless strap-on because it stimulates them better while giving couples enhanced intimacy. 

This type of strap-ons commonly comes with a bulb feature. Accordingly, this allows you to fit in your dildo, eliminating the critical need for straps.

Here, you have more intimacy – especially when using it with a partner – as there is no interrupting harness. As you thrust, the stimulation is satisfactorily shared across both parties, thanks to its double-headed design. 

  Nonetheless, for all these goodies, the strapless strap-on may not give you as much control as you would get from those with straps. Also, the strapless strap-on may be unfitting to use with heavier sex toys. Anal sex with these strap-less strap-ons can also be challenging, considering that the sphincter muscles don't boast the vagina's flexibility.   

Nonetheless, you can assuage this challenge to a reasonable extent by adapting your sex positions to the sex toy being used. Therefore, you could adopt sex positions like the cowgirl, lazy doggy, or even spooning. Some users prefer to supplement their strapless strap-ons with a harness to improve the support, without sacrificing the extra mutual stimulation with their partner.

   How to buy a befitting harness for your strap-on

You must be comfortable with the material of your harness. We recommend that you go with the traditional choice of leather, or at least resort to nylon. Of course, snugness is a critical feature of your, so you can maximally manipulate your dildo just the way you like it. Considering the need to get something fitting, we prefer going with adjustable harnesses.

The versatility of your harness is also another core concern when choosing harnesses. Some harnesses are pretty selective of the dildo size they can work with. Others work excellently with just any dildo size. You have to bear this in mind when buying your harness.  

We have seen ladies prioritizing clitoral stimulation when buying harnesses. For this, you could procure a harness furnished with a vibrator as an attachment.

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This way, while penetrating your partner and giving him/her pleasure, the vibrator returns the pleasure to you, making it a win-win. Indeed, this makes your strap-on sessions much more fun and sustainable.

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New to strap-ons? How to get used to them

The truth is you are going to possibly freak out wearing a strap-on for the first time. The appendage – precisely – the dildo could get you feeling strange. Admittedly, with the passage of time and continuous usage, you will get used to it, accepting it as your custom body part.

   If you are using a strap-on for the first time with your partner, it is preferable to do some rehearsals with it. This could involve you wearing it on your own to acclimatize to it fully. Yes, you can wear it around the house for a while in your privacy. Need some ideas?

Feel free to wear it for sexually-unrelated activities like washing the dishes, cooking, reading a book while wearing it, or even watching movies with your strap-on on.

  The essential idea is to get used to it and how well you can manipulate it. You are definitely going to enjoy your strap-on sessions with your partner when you are more comfortable using strap-ons.  

If possible, try masturbating with your strap-on. Touch and caress your body part while masturbating with the dildo. You never can tell, that can ramp up your emotional connection with the strap-on.

How can you use your strap-on with your partner?

After you have gotten used to your strap-on, sufficiently knowing how to use it, the time is right to introduce it to your partner. Your partner has to get used to it as well. 

Your partner could give your strap-on's dildo component a blow job or something like that to bond with the strap-on and feel natural with it.

Of course, lubes are essential when penetrating your partner with a strap-on. The type of dildo (your strap is outfitted with) will determine the kind of lube you use with it. You should know that water-based lubes – not silicone-based lubes – are more optimal for silicone-based dildos.

Start the penetration slowly, fervently communicating with your partner how to incrementally ramp up the speed, or possibly add more lube. Thrusting may also appear weird initially, simply keep things easy and cozy, slowly picking up the pace as the master your thrusts better.

Considering the ease of penetration, we always recommend couples who are new to strap-ons to start with the doggy position. If you are keener on grinding your partner, you may want to go with the missionary style. 

If you are struggling to locate the vagina (when using your strap-on with a female partner), feel free to scan around for it with your fingers. Upon finding it, you can slowly insert the dildo in.

   As we mentioned, communication is paramount while using your strap-on on your partner. Of course, there is this sense of naivety or vulnerability that pervades your first-time experience. Thus, a healthy rapport is essential to improve the atmosphere, relaxing you both for the exercise.

Take note that using strap-on can be emotionally absorbing, particularly those that are furnished with vibrator attachments. It is relatively common for the wearer to get drowned in the pleasure, forgetting her partner –giving so little thought to if their partner is comfortable or not. Ensure you are checking on your partner all through the exercise to keep in sync.

More importantly, you must use a condom with your dildo if you use it on more than one sexual partner. This goes a long way in preventing the unfortunate transmission of STIs. 

   How do you take care of your strap-on after sex

Aftercare is something too crucial to ignore. We recommend thoroughly cleaning your strap-on's dildo once you are done with that sexual session. This is regardless of whether you are using your strap-on with multiple partners, on yourself alone, or with one partner.

This is because of the tendency of these strap-ons to retain dangerous microorganisms like fungi and bacteria. You don't want to spread this as there is the worrisome possibility (after you use a strap-on's dildo on your rectum) of infecting your vagina with gastrointestinal bacteria.

   The more you clean the dildo component of the strap-on, the healthier and longer it lasts. You could use a damp cloth and mild soap to wash it. Those using silicon-based dildos would need to boil it after use to keep it safer.

That is all you need to know about strap-ons. We hope you have learned enough on how to use strap-ons to enjoy a memorable sexual experience – whether on you or on your partner.