Have you ever almost reached orgasm, and then decided to stop? You switch position or change activity, with the purpose of delaying the gratification of orgasm… And making the whole experience last longer.
This is a common practice, and even has physical benefits, beyond simply making the entire sexual experience last more. On the other hand, fewer people have experienced the feeling of completely zoning out during sex. “It’s like going into a trance,” Gen Zers would say–and they’ve even given it a specific name.
Let’s see what edging and gooning are: what defines these experiences, and what makes them different.
What Does Gooning Mean? (According to Gen Z)
Put simply: we’re talking about immersing yourself so deeply in the present experience that you feel like “you’re losing yourself in it.” There is no goal. There is no finish line. It’s just you, pleasure, and the enjoyment of it.
When gooning, you’re not overthinking it. You’re not even trying to control the moment or the outcome. You don’t want to reach an orgasm, nor do you wish to stop before it arrives. You’re keeping it simple and soft. You are surrendering to the feelings and sensations, and allowing the loop of pleasure to carry you further and further.
Edging Explained: What It Is and Why You Should Try It
While gooning is basically a new term for a state that hadn’t been fully defined yet, edging has been known for years. Edging can be defined as the practice of purposefully stopping yourself right before reaching climax, in order to delay it.
This might be challenging because you may not precisely know when the right time to stop is. But usually, with time and practice, you learn to recognize the sensations that precede orgasm until you’re fully in control of your arousal level.
Does edging increase pleasure? For most people, it does. By stopping before climax and switching activities, you might perceive your arousal increasing with every loop. By bringing yourself close to the edge a few times, your final orgasm is also going to be more intense than usual.
What Actually Changes Between Gooning and Edging:
We know this distinction might still be confusing, and that’s why we decided to compile a more precise list of differences.
You bring yourself close to climax, then stop and repeat the loop a few times
It prolongs sex by slowing down or maintaining certain rhythms for longer
It prolongs sex by almost reaching climax, then switching activities or rhythm, over and over again
You let go of control
You are fully in control of what’s going on
The main benefits are deep relaxation and the full enjoyment of the current sensations
Benefits include getting to know your body better, prolonged sex, and a more intense orgasm
The Right Mental State: Focus or Letting Go
For those of you who are still uncertain, here’s another point of view. While edging requires full awareness, and an accurate mastery of physical sensations, gooning is all about repetitive patterns, and reaching a hypnotic, almost “out of your head” state.
In other words, one is pure focus, and the other is like drifting wherever the current takes you.
Is Your Goal Delaying or Losing Control?
In the end, it comes down to a simple question. Would you prefer to exercise your ability to last longer in bed, and experience stronger orgasms? Practice edging.
Do you want to lose yourself in the moment, and stop experiencing sex like a performance? Choose gooning.
It’s up to you. And remember, while they have completely different goals, they can be part of the same glorious plan for the night.
Toys Recommendations for Edging and Gooning
Of course, we could not skip our final recommendations for the experience you’re about to embark on. Because edging and gooning are simply terms that group a multitude of experiences, but toys can enhance all of them.
For edging, precision and control are your best allies. Pick a vibrator if you want to practice by yourself. Among our most-loved new arrivals, Selena shines for its multiple features: it warms up, it’s app-controlled, and it has thrusting functions. If you’re a guy, Sam Neo 2 Pro is the masturbator that never gets old. Fully controllable via the app, it allows you to customize its suction and vibration functions. Needless to say, both toys can also be used with a partner.
For gooning, on the other hand, dual-function toys are certainly a no-brainer. Although you can use any toy you want, toys like our DuoGlow or Iker Neoallow you to stimulate more areas simultaneously, helping you fully immerse in the experience, and leave control behind.
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