Curious About Rimming? What to Know Before You Try It
by Giulia M.
Curious About Rimming? What to Know Before You Try It
So you’ve tried plenty of different things in the bedroom, and believe that, by now, nothing can shock you anymore. Until your partner suggests trying rimming. What is rimming, you may ask? Put simply, rimming is oral sex involving the anus.
What Is Rimming?
In truth, many of you probably didn’t even know this thing has a name of its own. But rimming isn’t just one of the many experiences you and your partner can do in the bedroom; it’s probably one of the most intimate ones. If you’re having doubts about it, let’s start by clarifying that rimming is a completely normal thing to do. It’s natural to feel curious about it, and it can be enjoyable for both parties if done right.
Anilingus, Rimming, and a Rim Job: Different Words, Same Act
The wide variety of terms used to refer to the same thing can feel confusing. However, anilingus, rimming, and a rim job are the same thing: the oral stimulation of the anus. Yes, we know. The word itself isn’t very alluring. In fact, rimming is probably one of those experiences that feel better than they sound.
Why Some People Enjoy Rimming
There are personal and biological reasons why you may like to have your anus stimulated. And no, it isn’t just a “kinky thing.” Just like we have pleasure receptors all over our bodies, and specifically in the so-called erogenous zones, the anus too has some of those. Some people love when their breasts are touched, or their genitals. And other people love when the back of their body is touched too. Pleasure cannot be judged. And being open to exploring new sensations may often lead us to discover things about ourselves we would never have imagined.
Nerve Endings, Taboo, and Trust
Beyond pleasure receptors, rimming can feel good simply because the area is quite sensitive, so even a light touch or soft stimulation can feel quite intense and exciting. In other words, pleasure can be a mix of factors, including physical and psychological ones. If you’ve always considered rimming a taboo thing, then you’re likely to have one of the following attitudes toward it: “absolutely not” or “hmm, I wonder how that feels.” Of course, our suggestion is to move forward if you belong to the second category. If your attitude right now is “oh hell no,” then you should definitely respect yourself and do what feels comfortable.
Especially in a relationship, trust is a big factor when it comes to trying such experiences. Just like all the other first times, you should feel at ease with the person you want to try rimming with. Of course, the level of comfort with your partner is up to you. Some people would only try new sexual experiences within a committed long-term relationship, while others can feel quite comfortable trying new things even during one-night stands. Whatever works for you, respect that.
How to Explore Rimming Comfortably and Safely
Whether you are the one wishing to try rimming, or it’s your partner who suggested it, keep in mind that both of you should be 100% on board with the idea of trying it.
Consent, Comfort, and Communication First
First things first, anything that happens in the bedroom should be the product of a consensual and safe vibe. It might be good to ask something like, “Is it okay for you if we try this?” or even, “How would you feel about trying this?” Exploratory questions can often make fears and doubts rise, giving you both the chance to discuss them openly.
At the same time, it’s perfectly acceptable to try it and dislike it. If this is your case, you should be transparent about it and say something like, “I do not really enjoy that,” or “I would rather we try something else.” If you are with the right person, they will not only understand that, but they will also be glad you expressed your needs clearly.
Hygiene Without Overcomplicating It
There is not much you should do differently to prepare for rimming compared to usual. If possible, freshen up with a nice shower. You can also shower together and enjoy some foreplay beforehand. If using toys in the shower, ensure they are completely waterproof. For instance, Beatrice is a great choice for versatile foreplay: it’s 100% waterproof and comes with different heads that allow a variety of stimulations. Cici is another amazing option for the shower or the bathtub. Its design is made for G-spot stimulation, although its flexibility makes it perfect for more than one use.
Start Slow and Follow What Feels Good
The bottom line? There is no strict rulebook for the perfect rimming session. Indeed, the only rule about sex is that it should feel good for both of you. If you’re just trying it out, start slow. Take it easy. Be soft. And if you like that, then you can try more intense stimulation, or add toys to the experience.
If you’re the one pleasuring your partner, be mindful of their feedback. Ask questions, and make them feel comfortable telling you whatever they like and dislike about the experience. Sex is about co-creation. Keep it light, fun, and safe.
